As a therapist in Oakland, CA, a consistent goal of both individual and couples therapy is increasing the ability to be introspective and to generally encourage introspection in understanding how you make choices and how you experience yourself in relationships. How important is learning the skill of introspection in therapy?
Do you dissociate? Yea, probably...
The five stages of grief, as originally outlined by psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, are often associated with the process of mourning the loss of a loved one. These stages can also be applied to other types of grief and loss, such as the realization that your family is not what you need or needed.
“Bibliotherapy is a term that describes the very real process of being positively and therapeutically influenced by what you read. As stated earlier, when it is at its most powerful, bibliotherapy is also relationally healing. It can rescue you from the common Cptsd feeling of abject isolation and alienation.”
― Pete Walker, Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving
Learning about complex trauma can increase self-compassion for your own trauma or understanding of a loved-one's experience. If you're ready to take a dig deeper, here are the books I recommend as a trauma therapist in Oakland, CA:
A Spotify playlist with some of my go-to podcast episodes to learn about trauma. Included in the playlist: what CPTSD (complex trauma) is, how trauma is experienced, how childhood experiences may cause trauma, attachment theory and trauma, and various ways trauma is treated, managed, and resolved.
Is your communication going off the rails? If so it probably includes some of the below.
which makes them more annoying.
These things won't make your problems go away, but they will increase your ability to have a fulfilling, growth-oriented life...
What's a sliding scale? Should I take advantage of a sliding scale? What are my sliding scale options? Why does therapy cost as much as it does? Are therapists greedy? Answers below...
Complex PTSD (or Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or Complex Trauma) is getting more attention. As a trauma therapist in Oakland, CA, this is how I define and describe C-PTSD.
Attachment theory isn't the only way to think of how you and your partners show up in relationships. The Relationship Grid developed by Terry Real can be helpful to identify the strategies you use when stressed or in conflict.
Which quadrant do you find yourself?
***Resources are not a substitute for therapy and are not intended for making diagnoses or providing treatment. Not all practices and tools are suitable for every person. Please discuss exercises, practices, and tools with your individual therapist or health care provider.