Helped, Heard, or Hugged
A client told me about this NYTimes article and I love the simplicity of the author's advice: As a queer couple's therapist in Oakland, CA, I often emphasize when you offer a loved-one support, it's best to know what support you need! It's common for people to jump into advice or problem-solving when emotional validation is desired...and the opposite is frustrating, too!
So before you jump to help, ask do you need to be 𝕙𝕖𝕝𝕡𝕖𝕕, 𝕙𝕖𝕒𝕣𝕕, 𝕠𝕣 𝕙𝕦𝕘𝕘𝕖𝕕.
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How to be the most helpful when your partner is in distress
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Stephanie Bain, LMFT
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