Therapy for People Pleasers in Oakland, CA.

“I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people's lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life.”
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― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

I'm a therapist for people pleasers in Oakland, CA! Therapy for people pleasers can help break the cycle of constantly putting others' needs first and develop healthier patterns of behavior and self-care. One of the main struggles people pleasers experience is feeling safe showing up authentically and increasing self-compassion. Here are some examples of what therapy for people pleasers might include:

1. Exploring underlying issues: Therapy can help people pleasers explore the root causes of their need to please others, such as past trauma, low self-esteem, or anxiety. 
2. Learning to set boundaries: People pleasers often struggle with setting boundaries and saying no to others, which can lead to burnout and resentment. Therapy can help individuals develop assertiveness skills and learn to set boundaries that are respectful and effective.
3. Building self-compassion: People pleasers can be highly self-critical and may have a difficult time taking care of their own needs. Therapy can help individuals develop self-compassion skills and learn to prioritize their own self-care and well-being.
4. Developing communication skills: People pleasers may struggle with expressing their own needs and desires to others, which can lead to feelings of resentment and frustration. Therapy can help individuals develop effective communication skills and learn how to express themselves in a way that is assertive, clear, and respectful.
5. Learning to tolerate discomfort: People pleasers often avoid conflict or discomfort at all costs, which can lead to a lack of personal growth and development. Therapy can help individuals learn to tolerate discomfort and challenge themselves in healthy ways, which can lead to increased self-esteem and a sense of personal fulfillment.

Looking for a therapist for people pleasers in Oakland, CA? Contact me here.

Therapy for people pleasers in Oakland, CA