How Couples Therapy Works
*You keep talking about "attachment-based relationships." What do you mean by that?
By "attachment-based relationship" I mean an intentional relationship where you agree (or less ideally, it's implied) that you show up regularly for each other, prioritize the each other and the relationship, and are committed to the relationship. This can mean answering calls of distress during your work day, being an emergency contact, responding to emotions, building a domestic life together.
Sue Johnson says it best:
"Underneath all the distress, partners are asking each other: Can I count on you? Are you there for me? Will you respond to me when I need, when I call? Do I matter to you? Am I valued and accepted by you? Do you need me, rely on me?"
Attachment-based partners should answer an enthusiastic yes to all these questions. If not, couples therapy can help!
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Stephanie Bain, LMFT
***Resources are not a substitute for therapy and are not intended for making diagnoses or providing treatment. Not all practices and tools are suitable for every person. Please discuss exercises, practices, and tools with your individual therapist or health care provider.